Do you know that feeling overwhelmed by the coulda-shoulda-woulda of life can affect what you do and say? Looking back at the most painful moments of your life can rob your energy, make you sick, and hinder you from being happy. Regrets, as what these are called, are torture to your mind and body and should be dealt with accordingly to save you from missing out on life.
So how can you handle your regrets and be born entirely anew?
Identify your weakness.
You should acknowledge your weakness and keep in mind that everyone makes mistakes. The most important thing about addressing your weakness is to learn from it and do differently going forward.
Become better at adapting.
Happiness doesn’t depend on perfect conditions. Sometimes, the most painful experiences in your life are opportunities to improve your ability to adapt to situations. You can’t change what you’ve done, but you can always plan a strategy or create a new path to get back to where you wanted to be.
Focus on things you can control.
We can no longer change the past, but we can always control what we can do in the future. If you feel you’re inside a shame cycle due to a recent regretful experience, it pays off to strengthen your focus on the things you can control, which includes the positive actions that will move you forward from where you are.
Focus on other people’s regrets.
When everything becomes undoable, and the source of your regret is slowly tearing you apart, sometimes it helps to focus on the regrets of other people. Knowing that someone else’s sorrows are more complicated and life-wrenching than yours can add a bit of motivation to your life.
Set new goals.
After acknowledging your regrets and accepting the things you can’t control, it’s time to set new goals. Let go of the disappointments and doubts by doing positive actions and meaningful things that bring happiness to you.